Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Take Time for ME

"Mommy!  I need you."

The shout resonates in my head as I try to drown the screams for just ten minutes in the shower.  I desperately want just a few moments to myself.  Just a minute to regroup my wits before heading out into the raging life of a mother with children.

I sigh as the water pours down on my head and muffles the cries.  Though soon, a banging on the door accompanied by a wail.  And then, the worst sound ever.  The scuffle of the door opening and little feet hurdling towards the shower curtain.  The swift cool breeze that sucks out all the steam I worked so hard to shroud around me. 

The curtain unceremoniously gets thrown aside and little eyes stare up at me. 

That signals my time to get out of the shower.

Admit it.  You have all had moments like this.  You have all felt the longing for just two minutes to be in the bathroom undisturbed.  You have lived this very scene many times before.

Its true.  Mothers have it hard. 

Lets be honest, we probably have the most under appreciated job in the world.  And it is HARD!  It is not easy, and it doesn't end after 40 hours are worked.  It goes on and on and on for the rest of our lives.  Even after the children are grown, mothers are still mothers. 

I have seen and known some amazing women in my time.  Some women who have sacrificed so much of themselves, they never had anything left for them.  Women who have given everything they had to their families, their children.

On my sidebar I have a quote that I love and try to live by. 

"Sisters, find some time for yourself to cultivate your gifts and interests. Pick one or two things that you would like to learn or do that will enrich your life, and make time for them. Water cannot be drawn from an empty well and if you are not setting aside a little time for what replenishes you, you will have less and less to give to others, even to your children."

M. Russell Ballard, "Daughters of God," Ensign, May 2008, 110

Those words have stood out in my mind since I first heard them three years ago.  They are beautiful, and so poignant and so often ignored.

I have been thinking lately how difficult it is to be a mother and a wife, and a chef, and a maid, etc.  It gets to be so consuming, I often forget to just do something I like.  To just take a time out, and give myself a little break.

And most women out there, I am sure, are forgetting to do the same thing.  

So I decided to create a linky party. Every Tuesday will be Time Out Tuesday.  It will be a place to post about your Time Out that week.  You can post anytime, just make sure to link to your post and not your blog. 

That is the easy part.
 
There is a slightly more confusing to explain, but really quite simple bonus to this linky party.  It is sort of like a swap.  The first week, I will look at the list of participants, randomly choose a name and then send that person a gift.  Something to help them relax and take time out for themselves the next week.  The next week, that person will blog about what they did, and then contact me for a name, and of the people who linked up, I will randomly chose another name, and she will send that person a gift, etc. 
 
I hope that makes sense.  If it doesn't please email me, and I will answer any and all questions.  
Hopefully this will encourage us all to make and take a little time for ourselves.  To replenish the well so that we can be better mothers and wives.  
 
P.S.  if anyone is tech savy and would like to make a button, please sontact me.

14 comments:

Em said...

Awesome idea!!! We've ALL had the shower episode. Frequently.

Noodle said...

I like this idea =)

sarajo said...

Love it! But you knew that already!

UGH, I used to be able to make a button. I'm not sure if I remember how to know. I know there are some tutorials online. You just have to google it. Ahh, google!

Lisa said...

AWW!!! I LOVE THIS IDEA! You are amazing! I sooooooooo need a push to get me to have quality me time! :) Thanks for the push!

Terra said...

I like this...I can tell you when they go to school...the first thing you will learn is to take your showers AFTER they are off for the day...OMG what a treat.

I can make buttons but won't have time until late next week....if you don't get a better offer by Thursday next week email me and I will do it for you! I have fun with that stuff!

Familia Morales said...

This is why I shower at the gym now--someone else is watching my kids, and while it's not the ideal place for a shower, it is uninterrupted.
I can find time for myself, but once I have that time I have no idea what to do with it. So I'm really excited to see what people will be doing with their "me" time. Good idea Amy!

Sami said...

Great idea, Amy! And you KNOW I love the idea of surprise packages, so that makes it even awesomer!
I will totally link up with you. Hopefully often, because Heaven knows I need it...:)

Sue said...

What a great idea, Amy!

And I remember those days when just getting a shower was like gold.

=)

Darlene said...

It has been a long time since I had any of those moments. I'm sure I had them but as one gets older(I will be 84 this coming Saturday) one tends to forget a lot of things and it seems that all I can think of are the wonderful times I had with my five sweet children. I was so afraid I would NEVER have any. It was six years before we were able to adopt our first daughter, Nancy, and then we had four the old fashioned way. Our Heavenly Father was very good to us. So take heart my dear, those memories will fade and just like childbirth you will get to the point where you don't remember the the hard things you had to go through to get your baby. I think your swap idea is a good one though and it is always nice to know that you are not the only person going through difficult times.

Myya said...

LOVE this idea, but you know that already. You explained it great too!!

I definitely want to link up, man I am sooo excited about MAKING myself take a time out. I REALLY REALLY need one (or 5) lately!!!

Mamarazzi said...

this is such a great idea. really i love it!!

i also adore your idea of sending a gift, FABULOUS. it makes perfect sense.

FUN!

Jenny said...

I remember these days. I used to groan when they pushed a book under the bathroom door so I could read outloud (really loud) to them!

Cute post.

Evelyn @ Hanging by a Silver Lining said...

You had my attention at hot shower. I loved how you described the built up steam being sucked out of the room. I think that's my least favorite part of them coming in. Never mind the noise...Just give me back my steam. {sigh}

I forget about that quote. I really need to post that on...my forehead or something.

Thanks for the reminder Amy!

Emmy said...

Such a great idea! I would volunteer to make a button but I am afraid it would be a month before I was able to get it done.