Sunday, January 2, 2011

Matching Dreams to Reality


We all know my love for Norman Rockwell.  His paintings are so real to life, and yet they leave me with a feeling of peace and hope.  Possibly because they reflect what I think of as the Golden Age.

I will spare you my ramblings as I have talked about it often, but dear oh dear do I long for that kind of life.

Thinking along those lines, I decided I need to do something about it.

Albert Einstein said something along the lines of "Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity."  According to that definition, I have been insane for quite a while.  Doing the same thing over and over and wondering why I was not able to achieve my dreams.

And so, today I sat down and decided to figure out exactly what it is I want.  Only then can I do what I must to attain it.  My reality is far from my dreams.

A typical day I wake up to Faye singing/yelling for me from her crib.  The noise wakes Keith up, and he comes into our room, says "Mom, Faye is awake."  And then goes into her room, and climbs into her bed.  Which makes her angry, and the yelling increases.

I get up, grab my robe and go into Faye's room.  I change her diaper, get her dressed and pick up her toys.  I tell Keith to go get dressed and make his bed before breakfast.  He generally gets dressed.  We have breakfast, turn on the music, and then dance while I attempt to clean up a little.  More dancing than cleaning is done.  We play and I sometimes blog {bad mom tendency}.  Then it is time for Faye's nap.  If I began blogging, I generally continue to do so.  If I haven't I shower as that is the only time I have during the day for a shower.  When Faye wakes up we have lunch, and then Keith watches a movie before his nap.  I put him in bed and try to amuse Faye while figuring out what to have for dinner and sometimes making it.  Jeffrey gets home from work, we eat dinner, and then I commence putting the kids to bed.  When they are finally in bed {sometimes it takes until about 9:00} I am so exhausted I generally sit down with the computer or a movie.  I try to be in bed by 10:30.

The way I would like my day to go is so much smoother.  I would like to wake up {around 6:30} to a clean house.  Put some steal cut oats on the stove and commence with some yoga.  When the kids wake up, give them their breakfast and jump in the shower {since Jeffrey would still be home}.  After breakfast I would send Keith to get dressed and clean his room while I clean up breakfast.  That way the house is still clean.
Read stories until it is time for Faye's nap.  While she is napping I would like to be able to do something with my hair and face.  Then craft time or outside time with Keith.  She wakes up around lunch.  We eat and then work on the alphabet and spelling his name for Keith.  He will go down for his nap around 1:00 and Faye will follow around 2:30.  The house is still clean.
I will begin dinner during nap time.  Cooking and cleaning it up.  They wake up around 4:00 and we can do whatever we want.  5:30 is dinner time, 6:00 is bath time.  {During bath time I clean up the bathroom} and 6:30 is Faye's bedtime.  At which time I put in a load of laundry.  Keith's bedtime is between 7:00-7:30.  At 8:00 I will fold and put away the clothes just washed.  8:30 will be time to clean up from dinner and 9:00 is my Yoga time.  9:45 will be get ready for bed, and I would like to be in bed by 10:15.

That is my dream.  I am going to try it out this next week, and I have to say, I am pretty darn excited for it!  And then perhaps by summertime I will be able to play outside with my kidlets instead of feeling guilty while staying inside and cleaning.   By summertime I will have made this a habit and will be able to have as much of a Norman Rockwell life that is possible for me.  I will be able to live my dream.

*Happy sigh*

8 comments:

Lourie said...

Hmmmm let's see a typical day...I will use a school day...

alarm sounds at 630.
I snooze til 7....15 ish.
Shower if I have time
get the kids up
breakfast
make sure all are dressed
make three lunches
brush hair(theirs)
stack backpacks by the garage door awaiting our exit.
We are late because I got distracted with email and blogs
Depending on the day of the week it depends what happens next. Shopping, weight watchers, laundry who knows.
Monday is early release blah
homework is always around 4
make dinner
clean up dinner
snacks
bed times
and finally my time

How I would like my day to go? Sleep in because I can. Or get up early to have time for me. Go to bed at a decent hour. All that stuff in the middle is pretty much a given. haha. Good luck to you!

Sue said...

Good luck Amy. I hope you can make it happen!

But if you can't quite pull it off, don't be too hard on yourself, okay? I think your existence sounds pretty good even without the improvements...

=)

Em said...

now your'e talking! i used to have a quote over the chalkboard in my classroom. "if you can belive it, you can achieve it." it's true my friend, so very true. the hard part is figuring out what the dream really is. making sure it's your own and not someone else's. this is what i struggle with at least:) i love that picture. my kids could never sleep in the same bed. ever. but how cute it would be. my dream is to let them do it on christmas eve. i fear it would only explode in my face and leave me grumpy and angry though! we'll see. maybe i'll get nicer??? lol let's hope that dream comes true!

Terra said...

oh I am wishing you all the best! It is hard to keep the calm, for me it helps to always get up BEFORE either child wakes up and take some time for "me" and having the house picked up before I go to bed makes a difference too!

Trish said...

Good luck with your dream! If I could get myself out of bed earlier then I'd be a lot more productive as well! Me and DH just stay up too late watching shows to make that happen though!

Familia Morales said...

Have fun turning the dream into a reality!

My dream would be to have a maid come a couple days a week to clean (not everyday, the kids do need to have chores). :)

Then I could spend more time playing with the itty bitty ones.

Oh, and if I could have a nap around 2, that would be great.

Emmy said...

If anyone can do it, you totally can!! I have been reflecting on my life a lot lately and feel like I need to do some shifting and adjusting. I just need the motivation to follow through with what I want things to be like

Veronica said...

You should definitely try it out and see how it works. Flexibility is always a good thing though.

Let us know how it goes!