Friday, November 13, 2009

Heartbreak at the Museum

We have been taking Keith out more ofen. To museums and what not. Wednesday we went to the Dinosaur park where he was only a little afraid. Yesterday we went to the Children's Museum, and today, if all goes well with his nap, we will be going to the nature center.

But yesterday my sweet little darling gave me a very bitter pill to swallow, and I am determined to find a remedy.

He was playing in the room with legos. Lots and lots of legos = hours of fun for my little guy. While up there another little girl was playing. She was adorable! I just wanted to kiss her cute little cheeks and cuddle her, but refrained myself because her mother would probably think I was a whack job. At any rate, she wanted to play with Keith, but eveytime she came near him he would run to me and hide behind my back.

I was so disappointed and sad every time this happened. I encouraged him to play with her, but he refused. Each refusal hurt me a little more. I was mortified of what her mother must think. See, I don't think Keith has ever seen a dark skinned little girl (or boy) before. I have to say, I am not prejudice, nor do I tolerate prejudisim. I grew up in a very diverse neighborhood and had neighbors from all over surrounding my house. Korea, Hawaii, China, Philipines, Mexico, etc. All over the world. Some of my best friends were from elsewhere. My mother was wonderful in helping us understand everyone is wonderful and there is no need to ever treat someone differently because of how they look. Color, capabilities, and intelegence do not dictate how you treat someone. Ever.

And so I saddly watched as the sweet little girl's mother watched my son run from her daughter because she looked different. She then scooped up her daughter and took her to a different part of the museum to play, a place where little boys wouldn't run away from her frightened becuase she was different.

I refuse to let my son be prejudiced. It is not right, and he will miss out on many wonderful friendships if he thinks that is the way life should be lived. I just have to figure out a place that will have children of all backgrounds so he can see them and not be afraid.

13 comments:

MODG said...

Some kids are just shy. It's ok I'm sure they didn't assume it was because of what she looked like. Although I always ran away from girls with short hair because I thought they were boys....

Emmy said...

You never know he might have run and been afraid of the girl no matter how she looked. After all girls have cooties :) Though he isn't old enough to know that yet.

Sue said...

It's good that you are thinking of helping your child become accustomed to all kinds of people. Of course, it's natural for him to take a little time to become comfortable. And because you are going to provide him with opportunities, he will!

(Who knows? Maybe he was just having a shy day, and it had nothing to do with the little girl's ethnicity at all.) Either way, it sounds like you've got it covered.


=)

Capt'n Amazing's wife said...

Hmm...it's easy to assume he was scared of her because she looked different but you might not know for sure. It might be a shyness factor. Nick was really shy as a kid, his mom wrote all about it in his baby book. But you probably know your kiddo the best so maybe find a show where there are people of different races...? I dunno. Good luck!

Em said...

my next adventure is the thanksgiving point dinosaur museum. i have to work my admission fee into our weekly budget though. so glad brennan is not 3 yet;-)

Katie Lane said...

My husband is really short. Children come up to him all the time asking why he is so short, being afraid, etc. It's how children are, it's how they learn. Don't let it brake your heart, he doesn't mean it the way it seems. Perhaps talk to him about it, read some story books together that contain all sort of people so he can see how normal and fearless those differences are.

Chris and Francisca Hakes said...

Sometimes Harmon gets really very shy for no reason. I wouldn't worry just yet!

Familia Morales said...

He's only 2, he could have been acting shy for any number of reasons, but it's good to get him accustomed to differences early on. You're the mama and you know what's best for your kiddo(s). Don't worry too much, with a mom like you he's sure to turn out great!

Cecilia said...

If he hasn't seen many people of other races he just might not be sure about them yet. Bella used to scream every time a black person tried to hold her. It was pretty embarrassing. Now that she's been around a lot of them she has no problem at all. He'll get over it super quick once he sees more of them in my opinion.

Jenn's Notes said...

Emma did the same thing when she was that age. But worse it was at church. A few years back in our ward there was a black couple from Africa. They had a little girl Emma's age and because she was different looking, Emma would not ever have anything to do with her. I think it's the age and if people don't look like our family they get a little afraid of others. Don't worry he will grow out of it.

Vic said...

Awww...it's okay...every kid goes through it sometimes. I get so embarressed whenever my kids look at other kids when we're out and the kid says, "Mommy, that girl is staring." Yeah, so what! I wanna stick my tongue out at them...haha...

warmchocmilk said...

Kids do weird things. My 5 year old embarrasses me a lot. I spend too much time worrying what other people think. It's okay. He's a kid.

Vickie said...

I am not a blog lurker. I happened upon you blog by way of my daughter Erin's.

I just really want to say that a great way for your child to learn to socialize with all types of wonderful children is to enroll him in a preschool at your local university.

Children of all social circumstances, races, religions and backgrounds come together to form a wonderful eclectic group who end up learning that we are all really quite the same.