Tuesday, September 29, 2009

How To Anger An Expectant Woman

"You can't come. You're pregnant."

The words rang out like an assassin's knife, striking a noticeable hole in my pride.

Our friend had come over to discuss plans for General Conference. He was talking about going on a picnic in between sessions.

I love Conference. It is something I look forward to every Spring and Fall. I was looking forward to cozying up to Jeffrey as we listen to the counsel from the Lord. Conference always helps me. It just makes me happy.

Now that I have my own family it is nice to be able to stay and learn in the quiet peace of my home. I don't mind visiting my parents and watching with them, but there is something so special about sipping apple cider ('tis the season, you know) in my husbands arms and receiving much needed counsel from the leaders of our church.

"What?!? What kind of crazy person says that?" I demanded.

Our friend mildly shrugged his shoulders, told us who it was, and then continued on with a different topic. I am not certain if he knew just how close he was to breaking the ice he was treading and being swallowed up in a wrath of hormones and pride.

He visited with us some more, and left with cordial farewells as it was getting late. I don't remember how civil I was after that comment though. To be perfectly honest, I am still seething.

Just for the record, I think it is safe to say never tell a pregnant woman she can't do something due to the fact she is pregnant.

Unless you have a death wish, of course.

So those of you who have never been pregnant learn this lesson now, before it is too late. Pregnant people are normal people too. Being pregnant doesn't suddenly make me weak or sick (except for the first trimester generally speaking). Unless the doctor says otherwise, we can do basically the same things you can. Up until the baby is born.

Just so you know.



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12 comments:

Lee said...

That sucks that he said that. Why couldn't you go on a picnic?? I don't get it?? You can't walk, sit on the ground, put food in your mouth?? Ridiculous!

Em said...

blah. this is a major bug of mine. not what got me going last night at barnes and noble though. the manager told me i couldn't return a book that i had gotten as a gift b/c it had been more than 2 weeks and i only had a regular receipt, not a gift receit. "next time you'll have to make sure to get a gift receipt. we have policies."
"yeah, i didn't buy the book so..."
"we have policies."
"i'm doing an exchange and actually spending a little more to get what i want. doesn't that make a difference?"
she finally caved and did the dang exchange. i was not leaving that store with my halloween kid books exchanged! glad i stuck to my guns. i tack it up to a day and night of being completely exhausted from a whining toddler and an overly frazzled pregnant woman.

Lisa Anne said...

When people make comments like that, I just have to shake my head. Some people just don't know better and it's hard for me to hold a grudge against them. I don't know I'm feeling forgiving today. Normally I'd tell you, you should have made a rude comment back.

You know have me wanting to sit on the couch next to the BF and drink hot cider while watching a move with the fireplace burning in the background. I love winter!!

Em said...

p.s. i did the email thing for you finally! super easy:-)

Familia Morales said...

Oh Amy. I just can't picture you seething. You're just too sweet for that. Then again those hormones do throw you for a loop. You might want to have your husband warn the friend to keep his distance for a while. :)

Noodle said...

I would have had a dead friend.... K you can tell me I can't go sky diving or race car driving but to sit and watch confrence then a picnic... what the heck!!! Maybe it was a joke gone wronge...

Children of the 90s said...

That really is ridiculous! What exactly is it that's limiting you by being pregnant? Some people have no verbal filter.

warmchocmilk said...

Men are stupid!! (sometimes) I would have been mad too!

Capt'n Amazing's wife said...

Amen sista! I've been wanting to rant a bit about the dumb comments some people say to me. I guess I haven't yet because I am so focused on staying positive. But anyway, one example is- my whole week of training for the census someone in the training would ask me "How are you doing?" or "Are you okay?" Which just made me think- geez do I look like a mess or something? But what I do appreciate is those people who offer to pick up stuff or carry stuff for me. So mostly I just have to roll my eyes and move on- there are too many annoying people out there to just get hung up on one. (for me) But I totally agree with you- that would drive me nuts as well! And in my opinion, there is no limit to the ways one can anger an expectant woman! (I speak for myself anyway)

Lara said...

I would've been crazy mad, too! The way I'm reading this, is that he was just transmitting news from someone else?

Go anyway.

Nicole said...

You've got me all excited for conference, talking about sipping cider and snuggling up to the hubby. Although I think I'm too pregnant to cuddle up to anything right now. I'm almost sick of going to church because I'm so sick of people asking how much longer, and when I tell them they get this look of such sympathy on their face, like I couldn't possibly get any bigger. Cute post!

Anonymous said...

Please keep in mind that this friend is a man, and he is awkward when making conversation, and words don't come out properly. They were concerned with the fact that the plans were to go up to the Bountiful temple for two hours to listen to conference on the radio, and then have the picnic. The person that brought up those concerns about you coming along has been pregnant before, and they know what its like to be away from a bathroom for that long of a time. The messenger just didn't pass along the correct part of the message.